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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Elders move into a facility that (will eventually) accept their Medicare payment. That's it. It's not that difficult.

If you don't like what's nearby, they go to a lower COL area. [b]Where they have roots or elderly friends/siblings/where they once lived or where they grew up. Some connection. You visit.[/b] They meet and make connections in their new place. Being social with people other than family, that's on them and largely a personality thing you can't control.

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Just wow. [b]Cannot imagine feeling that way. [/b]So cold.[/quote]

Seriously. Ship your parent to a nursing home so they can be social in their new place. So cold. I hope your children treat you so well in your old age.

I go out of my way to visit my dad who is in and out of the hospital. I bring the grandkids to see him because it brings a smile to see my 5yo daughter. I tell my son that it is sad to visit my dad but it is duty and obligation. I try to model behavior that I hope they will replicate one day. I hope when I am in old age that my children will come visit me and bring my grandchildren.

I would be heartbroken if my children just sent me away.[/quote]

IME what sounds cold to some is the result of dysfunctional parents.  Those parents may have had trauma of their own that led to the dysfunction.  People who had loving, involved, supportive, stable families of origin never understand the privilege this is and "can't imagine" anything else.    
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I think I’m just tired but can’t understand what you mean. Are you saying being in a nursing home is privileged or having children visit them with grandchildren is privileged?

My dad will likely need around the clock care in the near future. I’m going to look into a home nurse. We have a friend whose mother passed recently. Instead of sending her to a nursing home, they hired multiple aids/caregivers. I’m not sure how much this will cost but I’m assuming/hoping it will be comparable to the nursing care of $10-15k per month.[/quote]

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