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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don’t you just ask her what’s new, how she is, and listen to what she’s willing to share with you. She likely accepted your Friend request to be polite, but doesn’t see you as a peer, and doesn’t love that you are not only reading her posts, but….keeping track of them.

Just ask how she is and see what she wants to share with you, personally. Revealing that you read her every post and remember them is a little much.[/quote]
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You said you did it a “few times”. Why keep asking if she visibly cringes?[/quote]
Can you answer this question, OP? It’s very basic manners to not continue behaving in a way you know makes someone uncomfortable. Other posters have explained the reasons why your DIL dislikes this particular line of questioning. [/quote]

OP here. Because there’s nothing wrong with asking about something she’s put out there publicly! Perhaps if she doesn’t want it to be a topic of conversation, she should not put it online.[/quote]

I was on your side because I think Facebook is lane and people who post all their outings on it attention-seekers. But this comment is idiotic.

If she is visibly uncomfortable when you bring this stuff up and you keep doing it because you feel entitled to the information since she “put it online” you are in the wrong.

It reminds me of a time when two of my family members lived across the street from each other and were always commenting to me about each other’s goings on and getting resentful or jealous over basic stuff like one family having friends over for dinner. They were personalizing each other’s activities simply because it was visible to them. They needed to learn to just not see it. To just give each other space, mentally, even though they were physically close. This is what you need to do with your DIL’s Facebook feed. Stop looking at it so much. She obviously doesn’t want to discuss it with you and is not posting these things for your benefit.

If you don’t let up, she will eventually just restrict you on FB so you don’t see this stuff. Would that be preferable to you?[/quote]

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