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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I disagree with the previous posters. I don’t know what “low energy” means and I wouldn’t describe myself as such, but I was very overwhelmed by my first child, who was born when I was 35. I was terrified to have a second, but I really wanted one and didn’t want to wait for fertility reasons. We forged ahead and she was born when I was 37. I am so, so happy with our decision and have not found having the second one really harder than just having the one. Frankly in some ways my life is easier just because I’m not struggling with the adjustment to motherhood anymore, and I know what I’m doing so much better this time. Sure, it’s tiring but it hasn’t flattened us or anything. I currently SAH but will go back to work soon. [/quote]

My second baby was so much easier in every way than my first. Partly because of the adjustment thing but also he was just easier. But 2 kids is a lot harder. The fighting is a lot. Agree some one is upset a fair amount of the time. I don’t shake that off very well despite trying. [/quote]

Yeah, I’d say that when the second (or third) was a baby it wasn’t much more work.  It wasn’t until they were old enough to have their own thoughts and desires that it became challenging.  A baby in a carrier is not work at all—just pop a boob out and let them eat while you play with the other kid.  But two kids running in different directions that want to eat different things and play different games is where it starts to get rough.  I know some people whose kids are like peas in a pod and all like the same thing.  But it’s like those things in the casino—you might pull the arm and get three cherries, or you might get one cherry, one sunburst and one lion.  I think if you and your spouse have extremely similar temperments and interests it somewhat increases the chances that your children will as well.[/quote]

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