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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a situation in which, I believed my mother was genuine, a good person, with good intentions. She was not. That will eff you up your intuition. But also possibly heighten it.. Plus, she had turned me against my father, who really was genuine. i didn't figure it out til I was 20+. Might sound like I am dumb, but only emotionally. I am actually intelligent, and I think it's weird that I know so little about how emotions should work. In my life, I have lots of loving friends, and I have noticed that they all have either trauma, or neuro divergence, or substance abuse, just like me. We bonded, then figured out what was in common many years later. I actually have incredible powers of intuition, which I believe is pattern recognition combined with ability to connect two things that seem unrelated but are in the same pattern, with a unique result. It's not ESP, people -- although I do not rule that out.[/quote]

Trauma bonds are common. Once the trauma heals for one of the participants, the relationship generally ends. [/quote]

"Trauma bonds" between people who've been hurt and have healed can actually be stronger and longer lived than relationships between "normal" people. Many of us who have lived through trauma and dealt with the fallout are the kindest, most empathetic, loyal and caring people you'll ever know. We know pain, which makes pleasure, happiness and joy all the more sweet.[/quote]

I agree with this. The trauma bonds discussion is a bit of a tangent from intuition/discernment, but I brought it up because I feel like I intuitively made friends with people who were like me, even though in most cases I didn't know that we had trauma or neurodivergence in common, until a looong time later.

But I always thought "trauma bonds" were between the abuser and the abused, or possibly between siblings abused together. I didn't think of my friendships as trauma bonds. As far as I am concerned, they are not. We may have bonded over similar ways of looking at the world, but didn't talk about trauma. ... until we did.

If the relationship was only about the trauma experience in common, I get that the relationship could end upon healing. But I am talking about multi dimensional people (aren't we all?) With multi dimensional relationships. And any one person is going to be on a spectrum from "hurt" to "healed." I have been working on this a long time and not sure about the idea of being 100% healed. It's a journey, and you can meet the right, hurt/healed people along the way, that's how I feel.[/quote]

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