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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Christmas is for kids. The gifts are exciting for them and people enjoy giving gifts to children and seeing their joy.  Not only is it a little grim to curtail gifts for children, it’s really unfair to your sister. You had a childhood that apparently included an abundance of gifts, but because you’re now an independent adult with a family of your own, you want to reset the rules for your convenience, which means her childhood presents would be significantly paired down, judt because she’s the youngest. As it is, with a Christmas birthday, she probably already gets slighted as her birthday is overshadowed by Christmas.

However, kids don’t care so much about cost. Get all the kids a gift, but it can be a $5 gift as long as it’s fun.

Adults should be mature enough that they don’t need gifts (sorry about your mother in law).  You can try floating a gift exchange scheme where the adults only buy one gift for one other adult and agree on a spending limit (Secret Santa, white elephant, etc.)  Unfortunately, you’re probably too late, as in a group that large, somebody has almost certainly started (or finished) their shopping.  Otherwise, make small gifts, or buy personal gifts like the photo calendar) and sell it as wanting to do something personal. Either your husband handles his mother’s gift, or she gets the same and if your MIL complains, smile sweetly and tell her that you didn’t want to slight her by not giving her gift the same personal attention as you gave your family and then let your husband handle his mother. [/quote] When I was a kid we didn't get (and certainly didn't expect) gifts from aunts and uncles and cousins etc. Parents and possibly grandparents gave gifts and that was it. Kids shouldn't be expecting gifts from anyone, but absolutely shouldn't be expecting gifts from anyone other than their parents. We are absolutely killing the planet by this insane level of consumerism.[/quote]

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