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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If a family member gives a low dollar wedding gift (say under $40 for a couple) for a $100/person wedding, do you think they are signaling they don’t like you or think very much of you or the relationship, they’re cheap, or just clueless? They’re not poor. Of course I will be gracious to them but do I back off any relationship with them in the future?[/quote]

How much did they spend to be at the wedding?[/quote]

OP here. It’s a local wedding so they have no travel expenses. They have family watching their kids so no expense there. We gave them $300 for their wedding over 10 years ago. Our wedding is no more fancy than theirs was. I wasn’t expecting to recoup dollar for dollar and I don’t view the wedding as a gift grab. It’s just that the amount they spent is what we have spent on a birthday present for their kid. We are closely related, but not “close” if that makes any sense. There was no falling out or anything like that. Just different interests and life circumstances. This gift makes me think they don’t want to keep up the charade.[/quote]

Well I wouldn't go giving them some $300 anniversary or Christmas gift in the future if reciprocity is important to you, and that's fine. If that is backing off, fine. It's not a big deal if you want gift exchanges to not be one-sided. But if you enjoy giving gifts, picking out something they would like, etc., then do it for that reason, not with any other expectation.[/quote]

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