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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be firm. They're way out of line. Know that every law and moral code is with you on this one.[/quote]

:roll: There is no law or moral code about hosting, even when you're married! Her in-laws are just grieving the relationship that was, particularly when it affects their comfort during the Holidays. They'll just have to get used to the new normal. OP and her parents should politely ignore the in-laws as much as possible. In the grand scheme of divorce drama, this is NOT a big deal and could be a lot worse.[/quote]

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but: Did you miss the part where the STBX-inlaws are contacting her parents and guilting them about getting to spend more time with the grandkids? Re-read the first post. THAT behavior is out of bounds in a big way; the in-laws are taking their grief about the relationship and aiming it at her parents. Surely you get that this is beyond the pale. It's not OP creating divorce drama over Thanksgiving, it's the in-laws creating drama by complaining and dragging her parents into it.

I agree that OP and her parents need to ignore the in-laws in this case, but that is easy for us outsiders to say. It's also easy to say "it could be a lot worse" when it's a holiday and feelings are raw and a separation is still new. If OP's parents are upset and feeling guilty thanks to DH's parents' complaints, that's crappy of the ILs and incredibly crappy that the STBX DH is such a weakling that OP can't even ask him to handle it. He should be the one telling them that they need to lay off and get used to the idea of not seeing the grandkids at every holiday.[/quote]

PP you replied to. I read it all, my dear. You must live a wonderful life to have never experienced any "beyond the pale" behavior :-). Of course it's rude. Don't you know how to deal with rude people? OP's parents do not need to pick up the phone every time the in-laws call. They can point out that they refuse to get involved, and that concerns should be addressed to their son. OP can do the same. She sounds eminently capable and in charge.

Life can get so incredibly painful and messy, PP. Count yourself lucky if you consider this to be a big deal.
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