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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my experience yes. If you are close to someone with ADD or ASD they can’t keep their public best behavior on 24/7 and unless they really worked on it, they have no positive coping methods to deal with their inevitable mistakes, thus they lie. 
Sadly, in many cases they’ve been lying to cover up their mishaps for so long they’ve convinced themselves there is no mishap and whomever is pointing it out is attacking them.

It’s a bad cycle. And kids will copy it.

The mistake, the denial, the excuses, the blaming others, the lying, the storming off.

It’s developmentally quite juvenile. [/quote]

OP: Yes, this sounds like the cycle. One of the lies was that we were at a party the other night, and some people were smoking weed, and I asked him if I did (not a huge deal), and he said no. But my friend later mentioned that she saw him smoking too, when were we talking. I confronted my partner about it and he got very mad at me and hasn't talked to me in 2 days now. In fairness, I haven't called him either. I was waiting for him to cool off.[/quote]

I’m on this forum only occasionally, but there seem to be a lot of posts where people who clearly have substance use problems use ADHD as an excuse for their behavior.

Do people with ADHD lie?  Probably more than normal, and usually to cover up a mistake they think they can fix before you find out.  They lie to maintain the relationship.

Do addicts lie?  Yes.  Definitely.  And they will gaslight and ruin the relationship to continue using.

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You know it’s not either/or don’t you? A lot of people with ADHD, especially those who were diagnosed late or don’t have an official diagnosis and those who are poorly managing it self medicate with alcohol and other drugs. [/quote]

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