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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I spent years advocating for people with disabilities but I also spent years in the criminal justice system and I think knowing how awful this world can be I would not personally want to bring a disabled child into it, because eventually I would not be there to protect them. Other people see the world differently and are more hopeful about human nature. I’m sorry that some people have made you feel bad about having your child but consider that they may not be coming from a place of judging your child as underserving of being here, but rather as terribly vulnerable. It’s certainly a more pessimistic outlook but it isn’t intended as cruelty to you they more likely feel sympathy for the anxiety you will no doubt carry all your life and more as you age and know your child will be at the mercy of strangers for years after you are gone.[/quote]
So what, think what you want, but you have no business having a discussion like this about a child who already exists. That is incredibly rude and it turns *you* into a person from whom OP needs to protect their child.[/quote]

I’m the author of that post and I have never had any such conversation with any of the people I know who have children with special needs - whether detectable during pregnancy or not.

My point was to offer OP another reason that people might be uncomfortable with her choice. That they don’t think her child is defective and unworthy of life, but that her child’s vulnerability in the world raises fears in them and they are expressing those fears.

OP doesn’t assert that anyone has every said you should have aborted your baby, or that her child doesn’t deserve to live. Those are her feelings expressing themselves in reply to people who ask her if the child’s issues weren’t detectable in utero, implying that they might have aborted if so. The choice to abort a fetus with significant genetic issues is just as valid as the choice to carry such a fetus to term and raise it for however long the genetic issues will allow it to live. OP has to accept that some people will have a different perspective. She has yet to tell us that anyone has said anything beyond ‘didn’t you know?’, so the rush to judge imaginary people in this thread is weird to me. If OP is upset by the question, she should consider a response to provide when it arises - what she’s written in her OP about her choice should be sufficient. [/quote]

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