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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My family and I are like this. I hate it and want to change but it's not easy. Part of it comes from the feeling I know I learned from my mom, of being the one responsible for everyone being happy, like if I plan wrong and somebody's disappointed it's on me.

[b]My one wish for guests is that if you're asked for an opinion, just give one. Get me out of purgatory. Don't say "anything is great!" for dinner (and not tell me you quit eating red meat or wheat until dinnertime, but no worries, you're totally happy just eating the green beans!). Don't say "oh, I don't care what we do that day," say you WANT to stay home and play board games. Making decisions for 10 people who refuse to express an opinion feels high pressure. [/b][/quote]

x1000  The passive aggressive game is so ridiculous.  If you are a grown up, then act like a grown up.[/quote]

OP here. I do. I actively participate not only in meal planning, but in shopping and preparing meals. I have even directly expressed that we don’t want to go out and do much on certain days, like Christmas Eve, only to be met with exclamations that of course we have to get out of the house and do something—which, beyond church, a walk and driving to look at lights, you usually can’t do on Christmas Eve because things are closed. I think a PP was right and I’m going to have to sell a walk, a puzzle and popcorn with a movie as Official Plans to appease their need to Officially Plan.[/quote]

Wow, not the person you're responding to, but with snark like yours it is pretty clear why you're having problems with your inlaws.  Frankly, the more you post, the less likable you become.  It is hard to see what your husband sees in you.[/quote]

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