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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re admitting that you are angling to form a closer bond. They may sense that pressure. They may not want that.

Close friendships happen organically, or not at all. Enjoy people for who an what they are—whether that is a friendly neighbor, a friend you sometimes see at book club, or a lifelong close friend. [/quote]

It gets tiring and tiresome when it happens again and again. It feels like no one has space or time for an extra friend.[/quote]

Don't give up! Join a Meetup group -- those are people you KNOW want to be involved with others.

Those other women don't know what to do -- they don't want to make up an excuse, because then you'll just ask another time, and they don't want to say "No, I really don't want to go to coffee one-on-one with you" either. Also if they're older (no offense) maybe they don't realize you can see that they've read the messages? I agree that not responding is rude. They are not your friends. Just move on.[/quote]

This is OP. 
Thanks for your feedback. I am thinking of joining a Meet Up group. There are a few groups close to us.

I get that some people don't like to admit that they don't want to hang out with me and they say nothing instead (ghosting), however I personally prefer it when people are direct and honest.

Anyway one of the 2 women who didn't respond to my ouvertures is someone in our local circle of friends/acquaintances. We've known her for 15+ years. We're going out for dinner in a group soon (I  expect there will be about 10 to 12 people there). This woman is coming too. 
[b]I wasn't going to say anything to her on the night (other than exchangng polite conversation and joining in with the others) but my husband now thinks I should ask her out face to face this time. His stance is 'people can't ignore you when you're there' ...[/b]
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This kind of social pressure is rude. You're deliberately putting her on the spot.  I wouldn't want to hang out with you, either. You seem very needy and demanding. [/quote]

Did you not read my update? I have decided that I will not bring it up at the group dinner. I will exchange polite conversation and join in with the others.
It was my husband's suggestion, not mine. He prefers a direct approach a lot of the time.  His attitude in general (especially in the workplace, and especially in his line of work) is 'if you don't push yourself forward and be proactive, no one will know you exist'.[/quote]

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