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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you "just do self care!" people actual SN parents? We were drowning for YEARS. There was no time or money for couples counseling. No time or money for self care. We were shells of ourselves. We're still digging out of that hole. [/quote]
Self-care doesn't have to mean a two week adults only vacation to fiji. Self care for me is going out with a group of girl friends once a month for dinner. If you can't afford dinner, suggest coffee. Really self-care is finding something (even infrequent) that is just for you.[/quote]
PP Here. We had a violent kid and an NT kid. One parent could never, ever be alone with both kids. So if i left the house on an evening or weekend, I had to take a kid. Ergo, no self care, ever. All annual and sick leave was for school vacations, the random days off, and of course, ER visits. I hear you that self care doesn't need to be insanely expensive, but some of you just totally have no clue that there were NO options for some of us.

And at this point we're coming out of it, and so there is time for self care, but even with the benefit of hindsight, I see absolutely nothing we could have done differently. [/quote]
+2 when violence is an issue the barriers to self care are higher.  [/quote]

+3. PANS/PANDAS parent over here. What we went through is not really understandable if you haven't seen it firsthand. Thankfully we finally got a diagnosis and treatment, so things are better with DC, but we're still shellshocked/dealing with PTSD and time will tell whether there's anything left in the marriage.  [/quote]

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