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[quote=Anonymous]NP. If I read your earlier post correctly, OP, you are now OFF birth control and at the same time, he's using condoms for sex. You could end up pregnant in that scenario -- he does realize that, right? That unless condoms are used absolutely perfectly every time, they are only about 87 percent effective (I've read 85 more often than 87, actually!) but here's what Planned Parenthood says:

[b]If you use condoms perfectly every single time you have sex, they’re 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But people aren’t perfect, so in real life condoms are about 87% effective — that means about 13 out of 100 people who use condoms as their only birth control method will get pregnant each year.[/b][b]

I suspect you will end up with an "oops" pregnancy and he will be angry and upset, but in reality, you're both dicing with your getting pregnant NOW even though you say you're not trying to conceive. Are you really ready for him to be shocked and mad if you get pregnant? Does he realize that the chance of his getting you pregnant now is as high as 13-15 percent, which is a hell of a lot higher than perfect pill use or perfect condom use (both 98-99 percent effective--again, if perfectly used). I'm thinking there is some denial going on, on his part, and some secret "If I just end up pregnant, it'll all work out and he'll be happy though he doesn't realize it now" thinking o your part.

You and he need a come to Jesus talk about this ASAP before you come home and announce you're pregnant and he freaks out. If you are hoping you'll  just end up pregnant he'll be thrilled once he hears you say it--don't rely on that. Also: No mention from you, and I'm betting he hasn't even considered, the idea that once you both truly start working to conceive, you may not get pregnant right away. Or for a long time, or ever. Have you talked to him about that, too? 
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