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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am working on adopting a child by my 50s birthday. I don't want singlehood into my 60s and all women in my family were very active well into 80s. I pretty much gave up on men (but I was married for a long time, so perhaps it's just tiredness)
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Good lord don’t do this to this child! A baby is not a backup plan. Do you think your child wants to grow up in a micro family with a mom who has difficulty making secure attachments? And then you’ll die when s/he’s twenty-five? Thirty? So selfish it’s almost pathological.

If you really want a parenting role and want to be a decent human too, become a foster parent and provide temporary housing for children in need. There are hundreds of thousands of them.[/quote]

I want to adopt a 4-6 yo from my home country when I am 48-50. It won’t be a baby. Men have shorter life span than women and they have babies/second set of wives in their 50s all the time. I don’t want my only biological child to remain my own child all alone on this globe when I am gone. Plus, my adopted child will be well into 30s when I am most likely to die. He/she will be well adjusted just like my first biological child. Yes I have other relatives and want to have a family of my own. One child and a mom is already a family. It won’t prevent me from meeting my Mister Right in my 50s. I am not sensitive to men’s height (as along as he’s not too short). I donate to children foundations but fostering kids will be the same as my own child. [/quote]

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