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[quote=Anonymous]O.K. a couple of things.  You describe the two sisters as thoroughly enmeshed, perhaps to an unhealthy extent.  However, rather than being thankful that you're not equally enmeshed, you seem almost jealous of the closeness of their relationship with each other.

Feeling triggered by what they are doing is externalizing your locus of control.  You should try to be aware that these emotions, when they arise, are internally generated, and not to outsource them to your sisters.  This will increase your feeling of emotional stability and control.

As for the practical issue of scheduling events, I think the best you can try to  do is just try to schedule family gatherings at the house of one or the other of the enmeshed sisters.   Bring all the sisters and all the kids.   More complex arrangements seem to  yield repeated disappointments, so lower your expectations about those kind of events, and get more realistic.  Be satisfied that they are what they are and accept that as "good enough."[/quote]

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