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[quote=Anonymous]OP-growing up, as an only child, our holidays were 95% just the three of us.

My grandmother, who lived 5 minutes away, was usually upset at my parents for something completely lame. She would instead go to friends for holidays and tell them how horrible a son my dad was...when my parents always invited her over regardless of whether she was speaking to them or not.

We didn't spend time with my (fairly local) mother's side of the family because they cut her off after my grandfather died. Long story short, she was adopted, much younger than them, and they blamed her for his death, which was ridiculous since she was the one who cared for him at the end.

Now, as a kid, I had no idea of these dynamics. All I remember is cozy times at home with my parents. We would have special meals, or special decorations, or presents. It didn't even occur to me for things to be different...I was happy with how things were! I knew my parents loved me and I loved how we spent holidays together as a family.

As a parent now I can understand your disappointment, but I would suggest being careful not to project that onto your children. I'm sure my parents were upset at their situations in many ways. I never saw or felt that disappointment or anger or whatever; they made holidays special with the resources they had. And I have positive memories of those holidays.[/quote]

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