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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are dh’s parents doing for the holidays?[/quote]

Prob enforcing boundaries they’ve previously set around SIL’s freeloading ways [/quote]

How do you define "freeloading"?  I think my definition is very different....

(Also, did you even read what OP said about the dynamic between SIL and the parents?)[/quote]

She doesn’t ask, she tells her brother and OP when she wants to show up. OP doesn’t make mention of SIL offering to grab pizza one night, or pick up bagels and juice for one breakfast (SIL has the cash to stay in a hotel so she’s not broke). SIL is also mooching off of her elderly parents for plane tickets. [/quote]

1. Not asking has nothing to do with freeloading.
2. Correct, no specifics were offered about who pays for pizza or bagels.  So that is not evidence for or against freeloading.
3.  She may be "freeloading" off the parents, based on what OP "thinks" (but does not know).  But clearly they are OK with it, which is proof that they are not "enforcing boundaries" around the sister.[/quote]

Based on OP’s description I bet the parents are happy to pay for her flight so they don’t have Spinster Sis at their home for weeks at a time every holiday season. [/quote]

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