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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just keep pushing occasionally for your own sanity.  [b]I pushed my mom for years and she just kept refusing to talk about it, calling me bossy, saying she had time, etc. [/b] She collapsed and is in hospice, assisted living care at an out-of-pocket of over $10K a month.  She was a teacher and is likely to burn her life savings.  I sleep at night by knowing I did all I could do to avoid this situation.[/quote]

My mom is 75, her Parkinson's is progressing. I have had several conversations with her regarding elder care, that we need to start planning for when she can no longer live on her own. Her only source of income is social security which is about $2,500/month. She has a living willing (doesn't want to be on life support). Other than the living will, she has "no idea" about what she wants other than she wants me to make [b]all[/b] her decisions or comments like "I'm sure my doctor will make recommendations." When I brought the issue up again, she's started acting irrational making comments like "do you know something that I don't know", calls my sister and tells her she thinks her neurologist had a secret conversation with me that she's dying and that's the reason I'm pushing the issue. Unfortunately, this is my mom's personality. For as long as I can remember, she's had a helpless personality, doesn't want to make decisions, and then goes on and on about how the angels are watching out for her, and that whenever something has happened in the past, "someone always saves" her which 90% of the time is my sister and I. [/quote]

PP here.  [b]If she wants you to make all decisions, you need to have a medical power of attorney.  If she wants you to make all decisions, you also need a general power of attorney.[/quote][/b]

She has both, including a living will. My frustration is her inability or unwillingness to make decisions even though she is cognitively able to do so. She waits for my sister and I to "save" her (she actually used that word) but "doesn't want to be a burden".[/quote]

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