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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - some other examples that I’ve had people express horror over (to be clear this isn’t some weird “look how cool and relaxed I am” thing - I wish I did think through these things more
- letting my 2yo eat nuts and other similar snacks in the car (how would I know if he’d choked)
- letting them (4yo/2yo) run holding big sharp sticks
- letting them 3yo climb out of passenger side back of van before I was out of car. He started walking into parking lot 
- letting 3yo scoot around a little park at the end of our block where I can’t see him (he loops around and comes back after a minute or 2, sometimes gets distracted by rocks or whatever, but I’d have no way of knowing if he just kept going in our very urban area)

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also as another example, my now 5yo ran into one of his K classmates the second week of school at soccer. we are new to the school and i'd never met the kid or family. the kids started talking about a playdate and it didn't work out that day schedule wise but i would have 100% let him go have a drop off playdate at their house that day where i'd just met the parents and only talked to them for 5 min.  My sister was absolutely horrified that i'd essentially send my 5yos to a total strangers house. and yes, now that i think through it that does seem risky...but worries like that just don't occur to me.  my thought is "oh this is so great he's making a new friend at his school where my worry was he'd struggle....yay....lets get the playdate scheduled asap!!!"[/quote]

OP, I’m not a big worrier, but I have a reasonable sense of the big risks (yes, family and friends, pools, etc.).

Some of what you describe is problematic, such as letting your three year old climb out of the passenger side by himself and walk into the parking lot.  Less the leaving the car and more the parking lot, which is a real hazard to kids too little to be seen by many drivers.  It’s also not great to drop off your kid at a home where you don’t know the parents at all; see, “family and friends.”  It’s not that they’re going to snatch their kid, it’s that they may have dangerous things that he can access: medications, sharp objects, and, yes, guns.

I found Protecting the Gift by Gavin deBecker a helpful read.  [/quote]

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