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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you ready to hear from a therapist that you ARE getting something out of this? Because I suspect one would tell you that you are getting:

a) Validation that you are "the center of the universe" and "the only one who can do" and "the only one who can make the world turn" for your family

b) Trying to heal your own childhood trauma or pain by Being The Mom You Never Had

c) Justifying your lack of a job by making it So Important That You Be the One to Do Anything...like, you feel inadequate that you're not making your own money or using your degree or whatever. You're essentially making motherhood and homemaking caregiving be the hardest it can possibly be so that you are justified in your SAHM choice because "the universe would fall apart if I didn't Mommy Martyr." Maybe because you never really cut it in the workforce?

You're doing this to yourself because you are getting some form of justification or validation or benefit from it. Explore that. [/quote]

This. You are getting something out of this dynamic, or you wouldn't be doing it. We all have reasons for self-destruction or holding ourselves back. Whether you are actually willing to examine it, work on it and SET A BETTER EXAMPLE FOR YOUR CHILDREN is up to you.[/quote]

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