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[quote=Anonymous]As with most things in life, what you need is balance. If that feels too selfish or scary to you, then think about it this way . . . you are teaching your children that their needs are always paramount and yours aren't. They're going to think the world revolves around them because that's how you've ordered your life. Modeling self-care and an identity outside of "mother" and "wife" will set them up to be independent, functional adults.

I'm a SAHM of tweens and chronic illness has forced me to put limits on what I do for my kids, and honestly it's really good for them. They've been making their own lunches since early elementary school. They're empathetic and helpful (or, at least, capable of taking care of themselves). If I weren't sick, I might have thought it was my job to wait on them as long as I'm at home. But that's just a recipe for "failure to launch" down the road.

I'm not sure if you were implying that you never use sitters, or just not for your own self-care. Having your kids be comfortable with a sitter is really important. It's important for kids to feel safe when mom isn't around, and you and your husband need to be able to leave the home together from time to time. [/quote]

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