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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not exactly the same, but I had a child with major medical issues.

I feel like the vast majority of people did one of three things:

1) Stopped talking to me about anything that was happening in their lives, since they considered their problems to be mild compared to mine.  Which meant, that we basically didn't talk about anything at all, and the interactions felt really strained.

2) Stopped interacting with me at all, and moved on to friends who they thought shared their experiences.

3) Continued to talk to me, and sometimes whined about problems I would love to have (e.g. "He gets his clothes so muddy playing outside, I'm constantly doing laundry!" when my kid couldn't get out of bed or "I can't food in the house!  He eats it all!"  When I was agonizing over whether each millimeter of formula I put into his feeding tube would stay down or get thrown up.")

The third was definitely the best response.  Were their moments when it was annoying, or I'd be jealous?  Yeah, but it was still so much better than 1 and 2.  I'd think "Thank God for my wonderful clueless friends!"

So, yeah, feel free to treat me like a friend, which means sharing your problems and listening to mine, even if they aren't the same or even the same level. [/quote]

You sound like a nice person, and thank you for this perspective.   I did have unpleasant experience with one of the friends who fell onto hard times  (some of which were her choices and decisions) and then gradually became bitter to the point where anything I would mention about any issue (including health issues) would send her into a rage chastising me how my issues pale in comparison with hers and others she knows with "real" issues.  It came to the point where I was dreading inviting her over or being in places with unlimited alcohol.  When alcohol wasn't involved or was moderated conversations were much more pleasant.

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