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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom once told me to try to avoid marrying someone who doesn't get along with his family. She said either that person is right and you'd be marrying into a family with difficult people OR the person you are dating is the difficult person. Either way it's bad news.

It was pretty good advice![/quote]

No, it's not.  It's far better to be with someone who recognizes the dysfunction of their family and take steps to establish/maintain healthy boundaries than be with someone who can't recognize they've been condition to accept dysfunction and allows their partner and kids to be subjected to it.  [/quote]

I would rather be with someone who works on themselves and has empathy and understanding. [/quote]

People from healthy families have empathy and understanding. Working through "dysfunction" of one's family isn't necessary.[/quote]

It isn’t necessary to have dysfunction to also have empathy and understanding for others. But, humans are predictable, and there is generally overwhelming agreement throughout the history of humanity that we aren’t so great at that whole walking a mile in someone else’s shoes thing…..our (humanity’s) hubris and magical thinking lead to great progress and innovation, but it also leads us to discount experiences that are different from our own. [/quote]

What does this mean? No offense, but it sounds like rambling. [/quote]

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