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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am avoidant. I am very much in love with my partner.

I think the biggest trigger for me to go into my shell/pull back is when I feel like my partner is too reliant on me and I don't want the pressure. My partner is doing nothing wrong at all, but FOR ME, the feeling of being needed when I don't want to be feels like an imposition.

I am not afraid of intimacy or anything like that. But if it's not on my terms I find it impossible. The need to reciprocate when it is not coming organically form my own feelings is overwhelming to my brain and it shuts down. It feels artificial and then resentment sets in that I have to 'fake' it. [/quote]

Completely relate to this. Well-said. [/quote]

I’m glad it’s not just me. I have done a of self reflecting on this because I do love my partner so much. He deserves to have his needs met. I want to meet them. But I can’t change who I am or how my brain works. I have tried. But there are times when I just cannot give. 
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