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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m married, but I would love to be a little bit divorced as far as custody.  Wouldn’t it be amazing to just know, say, that you have every Wednesday and Thursday evening free?  You could schedule haircuts or take meetings late or go to happy hour or plan to get things done and know there was a time available to do it.

Divorce is hard, and I don’t envy anyone who has gone through it, but I would love to have regular, predictable, uninterrupted time away from my children.[/quote]

So why don’t you hire a babysitter to come every Thursday night? Or swap play dates with friends so one mom watches your kid every Thursday and you watch their kid every Tuesday? This isn’t that hard.[/quote]

It’s actually a lot to ask someone to pick your kids up from daycare and school, feed them dinner, help with homework, and get them ready for bed.  I’ve asked friends to do this in an emergency, and I’ve done it in an emergency, but I don’t know anyone who does this regularly just to give themselves and their friends a break.  Do you?
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Our neighborhood friends do a rotating night where one set of parents take all the kids and the other parents go out and do stuff (either with people in the group or with just their spouse). It's once a month and you only have to have the kids one time and the rest of the time they're with someone else. The kids eat easy dinners and they all play together and have a blast.

Also, you mention daycare, which is a different ballgame, but picking a kid up, feeding them dinner, helping them with homework, and getting them into their pajamas isn't very hard when your kids are in elementary school. For one thing, how much harder is it to feed an additional kid or even two? For another, when they're in elementary school, how much homework could they possibly have? I'm not talking about special projects, I'm talking run of the mill Tuesday night homework. And getting them ready for bed isn't hard when the kids change into their pajamas and then they go home afterwards. And bonus, your kids have a friend to play with so you'll have some alone time that evening while they're with their friend! Maybe I live with a bunch of unicorn families and children, but taking on an extra kid or two isn't a huge ordeal. And my husband and I both work full-time and we don't have a nanny anymore now that our twins are in third grade. [/quote]

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