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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For me, I remember as a kid feeling that the dynamics of really close girlfriends were suffocating both physically and emotionally. I think it might be from growing up with all brothers and male cousins. As an adult, I still find the expectations of intimacy from the “close friend” type women to be pretty demanding. I have made peace with the fact that I am doomed to have many un-close friends.

It’s not so bad, because I do consider the friends I’ve had for 20 years to be close, just in a different sense. Perhaps all you need is to look at your friendships in a different light? Comparison is the thief of joy, after all.[/quote]

I agree. I grew up with just brothers and several of the women I've been friends with expected me to drop things and run to them when I could not. I had a serious job and worked lots of hours trying to move up the ladder just a smidge. Most women had to work twice as much as the guys to get anywhere at work and I had friends who weren't sympathetic or didn't understand that. Too many women and even boyfriends expected hour long phone conversations. I could not be that person who talked every day or had constant long conversations. I was often exhausted from work and would feel stressed by the expectations of some of my friends. I have a child with sns and dealing with that was so hard and dealing with friends who had no clue was worse. I dropped a lot of friends through my kid's early school years. Now throw in politics and it's even harder. [b]Op I don't think there is anything wrong with you. If you have a more professional job, I think it is just different. [/b]Good luck. [/quote]

I disagree. I have plenty of close female friends who are doctors that went through grueling residencies, partners at consulting firms like BCG, start-up founders, etc. Of course I understood that they weren't always available for text chain rants or phone calls. But they prioritized socializing when they could and showed up for the important moments (or occasionally missed because of work obligations but made it up in another way). Now many of them are married with children and careers but stay in touch through texts and visits when they are in town (often for work).[/quote]

+1. Doctors (and other "busy professionals") definitely have time to text during their day.[/quote]

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