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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m married, but I would love to be a little bit divorced as far as custody.  Wouldn’t it be amazing to just know, say, that you have every Wednesday and Thursday evening free?  You could schedule haircuts or take meetings late or go to happy hour or plan to get things done and know there was a time available to do it.

Divorce is hard, and I don’t envy anyone who has gone through it, but I would love to have regular, predictable, uninterrupted time away from my children.[/quote]

So why don’t you hire a babysitter to come every Thursday night? Or swap play dates with friends so one mom watches your kid every Thursday and you watch their kid every Tuesday? This isn’t that hard.[/quote]

I also know a lot of kids who do this.  The key is paying them.  Friends and family willndonit occasionally to help you out but no one in their right mind besides a grandparent would agree to do it for no pay.

It’s actually a lot to ask someone to pick your kids up from daycare and school, feed them dinner, help with homework, and get them ready for bed.  I’ve asked friends to do this in an emergency, and I’ve done it in an emergency, but I don’t know anyone who does this regularly just to give themselves and their friends a break.  Do you?
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I have a child with profound special needs. I have had this type of help almost every single day for 13 years. My current Monday, Wednesday, Friday sitter has been with us six years of so in various capacities — while in college, then occasional weekends when she graduated and now three days a week since she has left her job and gone back to grad school. I definitely know people that have after school help a couple of days a week with neurotypical kids. I’m surprised you don’t know anyone that does this.[/quote][/quote]

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