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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Like after the wedding, honestly. Don’t marry someone who wants you for your trust fund.[/quote]

This.  You do not want someone to marry you for your family money.  [/quote]

I don’t agree with this, if you wait that long the new spouse will almost certainly feel deceived to some extent and wonder what else might be out there.  Better to wait long enough to know that they are serious and not motivated by the money, and gradually provide more detail in the course of the relationship.  If they act weird or different in response, that’s a red flag.  But let’s say you are dating and engaged to someone for two years and on the wedding night you say “by the way, I’m worth $50 million” it’s going to be pretty destabilizing.[/quote]

Exactly. I kept my situation quiet till engagement and regret it. My ex had constant issues with feeling insufficient and later entitled to my family money. The situation became abusive as my annual gifting sent him into rage spirals- because he has spending issues he relied on that large tax free check every year, the. Hated himself for that. He’s now got $250k in Unsecured credit card and irs debt 4 years after divorce. I am an early discloser as I won’t deal with that seething resentment ever again. If someone shows ref flags I can edit elegantly and early. [/quote]

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