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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, with love, you should not even need to ask us if this is reasonable. You are about to have a kid who you will need to advocate for with teachers, doctors, extended family, etc. it is not always comfortable. Use this moment as an opportunity to look into books and resources for how to overcome being a people pleaser. It will help you in many ways.

You can be firm with people and say “no” while still being respectful and even kind.

Good luck, you deserve cleanliness and rest at this time in your life![/quote]

OP again. Thank you. This response made me cry. I know this is something I need to work on. It’s very difficult for me to upset or disappoint people. I am definitely going to seek out books and resources ASAP. I want and need to do better for my child. [/quote]

You totally can, and you will! One of the beautiful but challenging things about being a parent is that it puts you in situations where you have to tackle your own issues head on. It results in so much growth. Embrace the journey and approach it with a lot of compassion for yourself. [/quote]

NP, but this post is so thoughtful and kind. Most of all it’s true. You’ll get there OP. I think family can be the hardest to stand up to, so this will be great practice. You can be firm and still polite with people when setting boundaries. It took a long time for it to click for me, but eventually I realized I don’t need to hide my feelings, needs, or wants to smooth things over for people who would be offended when they don’t get their way. They’re no more special than I am, and if they’re not afraid to tell me no, I won’t be afraid to stand up for myself (or my kids) and tell them no. [/quote]

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