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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have some full time working moms with only 1 child, and their daily life seem to be so easy & smooth. They sign their only child with weekly activities (academic enrichment or sport or musical instrument) and they have time for themselves to take swimming class or ice skating class (either with the child or go by themselves) or go to gym on a weekly basis. [/b]They learn and grow together with their child and seem to have all positive energy/influence.[b]

I am the odd full time working mom with 2 children (the oldest is the same age as them like age 7/8, and the youngest is 3 years younger). I don't have time for myself at all to take classes that I like (e.g. drawing, pottery or musical instrument). I could not find time and I have been transporting and managing both kids activities after school or on weekends. They have parties and playdates sometime.

I am wondering if it is me that I am suck at managing/organizing to make it work for me, or is it true that mom with 1 kid have more time/energy to do things for herself because 1 kid is a lot easier to manage? [/quote]

Yeah, this is really a key part that others haven't commented on yet. My only child and I DO STUFF together. We (including dad) are a team and DD loves her positive, collaborative childhood. Because I have one child, I have the bandwidth to have a career, have my own hobbies, AND be the mom that does all of the things. Soccer coach, scout leader, classroom parent, summer camp volunteer. It gives us (and her dad, he splits volunteering time with me on some activities) a ton of quality time together and I wouldn't trade it for the world. It also helps that DD has always been naturally independent and a total bookworm, so she really doesn't need or want an in-home playmate. She'll sit and read a book after dinner while I complete some online certification course for one volunteer role or another. One child wasn't our plan (thank you, lousy egg reserve), but it's brought our lives so much richness and closeness that it's hard to imagine being in the "normal" parenting grind like our friends and family.[/quote]

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