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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does the state of my house affect you in any way. [/quote]
The state of your house or any one house doesn’t affect anyone. However, the rise in expectations of how people should live, which for some reason is primarily related to what women shoukd be doing, is terrible and it affects all of us. Somehow we are expected to maintain perfect homes, spend hours every day curating our children’s lives to perfection, while holding down meaningful jobs and making sure our families are eating healthy meals…it’s not a realistic goal. And of course some of us can buck those expectations and still feel good about ourselves, but humans are social creatures and it’s really hard to not care what what other people think because we are innately wired and socialized to care. Too many of us don’t succeed the way it seems like everyone else is and end up feeling insecure or lonely or as if they are failures.the worst part is how hard women are on each other; you can see so much of that on this board. It’s sad, really.[/quote]
Really? I think there is WAAAAY less pressure to have a perfect home/children/homemaking skills than there was say, 50 years ago. When I was a kid (I was born in '71) it seemed like a lot of moms were far more concerned with cleaning and cooking than having outside interests, working, spending time with their children. [/quote]
I don’t think OP was talking about cleanliness and organization exactly, more about how everything has to be new and perfect (the Floors! have to match the Furniture! which all needs to look a Certain! Way! and the Appliances! need to be five years old or newer!). It can’t just be a nice clean home with homey furnishings anymore, it has to be immaculate (except for that one room the owners throw everything into because the cleanliness is mostly a sham) and the organized spaces require bins and labels and space between the bins. I don’t think anyone understands what OP was talking about, save 8:38.

It is weird, OP, and it drives more materialism. Even if someone’s home isn’t what we’d consider “insta perfect,” how many people do you know who replace their furniture or kitchen every 3-5 years? I know more than a few and that’s full on bat spit crazy. People have this expectation that everything needs to be new all the time, and if anyone doubts it, read annnnny thread about kitchen renovations. “Can I live with these beautiful but hideous dark cherry cabinets?” “NO, OP, rip them out! You cannot be seen to live with that!! It’s OuTdAtEd!!!”[/quote]

You keep saying “people feel” this or that but we’re telling you that people DON’T feel like that, you’re just spending WAY too much time on social media. If a thirteen year old told you everyone thinks they need a full face of makeup and long nails, would you tell her she’s right or take away her phone? Take away your phone![/quote]
Lol. I’ll cut my 30 or so minutes a week down to nothing to satisfy someone on the internet who made a lot of assumptions. I gave specific, concrete examples that you can read, right on this website, right on this forum. If you’re trying to pretend that people don’t spend more time and money decoration and zhuzhing, you’re only fooling yourself. [/quote]

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