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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Just catching up on this thread. Thank you for the advice, even when it sometimes conflicted! It is useful to think of this from several perspectives. Other than the person who says I am disgusting, which I'm just going to disregard.

But I actually came back here because after school yesterday I was talking with my daughter and she was talking about some playground interactions at school, and I found some of the things mentioned on this thread quite helpful in the conversation. Not going to go into detail, but it made me think of the comments that noted she is pretty self-possessed for her age in choosing to do what works for her even if it is not what the other kids want her to be doing. I think this is right and it was a good reminder. It does sometimes mean that she spends more time playing on her own than other kids might, but it's a choice she's making for herself based on her own preferences, not something she is being pushed into because she's being excluded. As long as it's her choice, I'm not going to worry about it. I sometimes forget that her childhood is quite different than mine because she's an only child, because of Covid, and because she is simply a different person. I don't think I'm totally projecting my own issues on to her as some suggested (I understand my worry stems from my own experiences but that is not the same as just imposing my own experiences onto her). But I do think I need to learn to worry less unless an actual problem is presented, and I don't think she views her relatively social isolation as a problem at the moment. She has at a various points in the past and we've talked through those, but right now I think she's comfortable with her level of socializing and she has a lot of confidence in herself which is great.

Thanks for being a sounding board, it was useful.[/quote]

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