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[quote=Anonymous]OP, a few things. 
Where do you stay when you visit your parents? If they requested you stay in a hotel do you think you should pay or them? What if it was for a holiday so they were getting ready to have other people over. Would that make a difference? 
Would it make a difference if they invited you or if you initiated the visit? 
Would offer to pay for food or cook for them or would you expect them to provide the main meals? Do you entertain yourself or do you expect them to do things with you the entire time?

You see, you can't have 2 sets of expectations. You can't expect to go there and get a free room and meals but demand they pay for a ABNB and their own meals when they come to you. 
Now, you can limit the days and times they visit. Just say, you know we would love to have you in September but with kyle graduating we will be swamped. Can we pick a different date? If you invite them, then sorry, you are kind of responsible for them. 
If my inlaws invited us to visit and then demanded we pay for a hotel and our meals I would kindly decline future requests. 
But maybe that is what you want anyway.

if you don't want your parents to be there for big events (graduation, birthdays) then tell them you prefer celebrations like this to be with just you DH and kid. But you would be happy to find other times for them to visit
But don't martyr yourself by making them out to be the bad guys here. Likely you are not telling your friends the big picture or they don't understand it. I don't know anyone who invites family to babysit for a week but expects them to pay for a hotel adn meals the entire time they are there. [/quote]

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