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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, it sounds like you just don't want them there. That is a harder pill to swallow and i get that you dont want to say it directly. You night say you do want them there, just not for meals or overnight, but if they live far enough away that's not an option so it's irrelevant. They are not afternoon guests.

If you're asking them to stay somewhere else so you don't have the burden of hosting specifically, and they're happy to stay with you, it is for your convenience over theirs so I think you should pay. 
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What's the situation when you go home to visit them?. Do they cook every meal and do you stay there or do you pay for your own hotel and figure out your own meals?
I think you both need to set some boundaries, but you have to realize that the way you interact with them when you visit them will impact how they interact when they visit you. Not fair for you to expect them to pay for every single visit either way. [/quote]

Yeah, I'm curious about whether OP and her family stay with her parents, whether she'd be put off if they told her to stay in a hotel even though they have space, whether they buy the groceries and plan and prepare the meals.

I mean, you act like you did them a big favor paying for the AirBnB when they came for the purpose of providing childcare while your daycare was closed.  The vibe I get is that you don't really like them, and you don't really like them visiting.  [/quote]

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