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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I don’t understand how you could view your wife’s uncle as in the wrong here at all. Your MIL and SIL are clearly entitled idiots and should not be foisting giant messy dogs on frail elderly people and their caretakers. Your wife can stay out of it if she likes, but the only reasonable person to side with is the uncle. [/quote]

OP here: I’m generally team uncle but was then thinking the dogs would probably be staying in the guest house so maybe it wouldn’t be a big deal. And also it’s thanksgiving so I understand why my MIL would want more family there. I’m also trying to be more empathetic towards my MIL. But yes, it’s always a thing with her that when she’s “helping” she has to have annoying additional things that makes it better for her but more annoying for whomever she is helping.

Re: other questions and comments. The family tried to get them in assisted living in DC area where most of the family is but they were and still are very resistant. Covid only helped their argument ab staying in their home as we all saw how it ran through nursing homes. It’s also actually the cousin (not the uncle’s child, uncle in question is single w no children) who takes on most of the care. He’s doing it voluntarily since his grandparents practically raised him but we all feel the worst for him taking on so much.

My wife also enjoys getting involved in the family drama. It’s like a family past time on her side. She says this is just the messed up family dynamic she grew up with and doesn’t want to raise our kids that way. [/quote]
Thanks for the update.  Your posts are interesting in that they show that part of you is a step or two ahead of what you are portraying. [b]You know that the caretaker cousin deserves to have the final say, and you know that your wife’s desire to sink her teeth into this drama is straight up wrong. Please just do the right thing and also tell DW she can do much better than the way she was raised. [/b]Don’t lose focus of the vulnerable people here, please. This is really your time to step up and help this dysfunctional family do better. [/quote]

Well said and completely agreed.[/quote]

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