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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you obviously don’t have to go but perhaps if you were honest with yourself and others your responses would have more clarity. The more background you offered it seems clear you don’t like your in-laws, this trip seems triggering as it’s religious based and you denigrate that aspect. The ‘can’t go for 10 days is easily addressed by going for a portion of the trip; your DD last pre-college summer could instead be marked by an amazing experience in a part of the world it sounds like she’s never been - also - as she heads into adulthood-connecting with her family - some of whom you say she adores. Go or don’t go but be honest. It’s not that you can’t go it that you don’t want to and part of that reason for you is you dislike your in-laws.[/quote]

This is op I told husband he can go! He does not want to go. He can’t get the time off and doesn’t want to use his rare time off doing this. He wants to save his time for family vaca and taking daughter to college and her orientation. He is in medical field and has to work in person so it is difficult to get time off. [/quote]

Btw he just visited them all 3000 miles away! Just got back and they are already badgering the next trip! Problem is they are retired and wealthy and don’t have any obligations except free time to plan a bunch of events and parties and then pressure us to attend them all 3000 miles away and now Israel which is 5000 miles away or whatever. They have no concept of our reality which is we’re in the thick of things here working full-time, two kids trying to get a handle on things etc… [/quote]

Invite them. Have them come experience your reality. [/quote]

Bad advice. OP would be doing this with the idea of trying to get them to see how busy they, that they would suddenly have this epiphany and then they would back off the badgering. That’s never going to happen, so why bother? OP should not waste any energy trying to convince these people that her and her husband’s reasoning is valid. There’s absolute nothing they could say.[/quote]

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