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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an extreme fear of jewelry . Thankfully everyone who truly knows me knows this. If I’m given It by someone else I say thank you and try desperately not to break out in hives then I throw it away .[b] If someone I know gave it to me I would assume they hate me[/b]. Yes return , re gift or throw away .[/quote]

This, There are some people who do use  gifts for their passive aggressive mental dances and it's best to just have a no gift policy with these people. If OP has said repeatedly she does not like jewelry and mommy gets that for her, that is not being clueless or a bad gift giver. It's a way to try to engage in dysfunction. Also, people have a right to say "no thank you" to a gift. It is not rude especially if you have made clear the gift is your presence and we don't want gifts. Then you don't have to waste time finding a thrift shop to take it or worrying about the landfill if you throw it away or whatever. If you have a compulsion to give people stuff when they have asked you to stop because it's your "love language" then be prepared for them to give a polite decline and you can find someone else to impose your needs on.[/quote]

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