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[quote=Anonymous]I could have written so many of these responses and my heart goes out to all of you.

I waited to go NC until I was 39 and should have done it the second I left home.  The secret rage, physical and mental abuse, manipulation and gaslighting left me with horrible boundary and trust issues that's I'm still working through nearly 7 years later.  Like a PP, what forced my hand was the desire to protect my children even more than the desire to protect myself, at the time.  After seeing my mother reduce 7yo DD to tears (yet again) with her callous and reckless behavior, something in me just snapped.  I had been working up to the decision for some time and in that moment felt an intense sense of calm and peace in my choice.  Truth be told, it was the first time I felt empowered enough to make a choice with regard to her.

As a parent I put in conscious effort every day to be the opposite of her. I have a great marriage and an amazing family.  We are close-knit and happy and, had I allowed my mother to continue to be in my life, she would still be doing everything in her power to undermine what we've built together.[/quote]

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