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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t like it when people act entitled, vegan or otherwise. I’ve hosted many vegan guests who were perfectly gracious and helpful. I also happen to have hosted several vegans who:

1) Preach and preach and try to shame and convert (yes, actually to me in my own home when I am hosting them)
2) Turn up their nose at what is on offer, especially when I have gone out of my way to purchase or prepare it (“vegetarian lasagna with vegan cheese again, it’s like no one knows how to make anything else vegan”)

I don’t categorically dislike vegans. I do categorically dislike rude, entitled people, which sometimes includes vegans.[/quote]

[b]I usually don't go to people's homes as I am very particular when it comes to food.  [/b]If I host I ask people what they like vs. just tell them this is what they are eating.[/quote]

And there you have it. Who wants to host someone so difficult? Fall in or stay home. I’ll be happy to serve vegan options if you tell me you are vegan, but you don’t get to dictate the menu. If you can’t be a gracious guest, stay home.

Gracious, mature vegans are welcome in my home.
Picky, difficult guests—whether they are vegan or not—will not be invited back. [/quote]

A good host takes food preferences into consideration.  [/quote]

If I ask “any allergies or food restrictions,” usually someone will rather sheepishly say, “it’s not an allergy, but I hate fish.” Or a spouse might say, “Barbara technically can eat pork, but she prefer not to.” That’s helpful information.

That said, most people don’t treat home invitations like a restaurant. And most mature adults—even if they don’t particularly like something—won’t mention it, because that’s not the same level as keeping kosher or being allergic to mushrooms.

I dislike certain foods, but I have never mentioned them when accepting an invitation to someone’s home. Because even if those things are on the table, I can eat them like an adult. I can eat a small portion of the thing I do not like, eat plenty of the rest, and thank my hosts for having me. Because the point of the evening is the company and the time spe nt together. If I get home and find I’m still hungry, I eat a bowl of cereal and I’m off to bed. [/quote]

Do you say that to guests who are trying to be kosher? Just eat it to be polite?[/quote]

No, dear. That’s literally the opposite of what I said. I get that you WANT me to have said something else to help you grasp at straws, but do try to what I have actually said, which is:

1) I ask about and respect all food allergies and restrictions
2) If someone also happens to mention an aversion when I ask about allergies/restrictions, fine, I will respect that
3) I make meals that have lots of options 
4) If the above considerations are not enough for you, and you are a child who doesn’t like 85 things, blabbers on and on about your dietary preferences or allergies (beyond sharing them so that the host can adequately plan for you) and can’t help but complain or sit staring at the one roll you condescended to eat, then I won’t say a word to you, but you will not be invited back.[/quote]

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