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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year.  Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it.  Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund.  He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia.   He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?  [/quote]

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.[/quote]

OP here.  DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease.  He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer.  He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

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Good for him!  Mental health is more important.  There are plenty of other great universities to get a Comp Eng degree from that are not as much of a pressure cooker. The fact he is doing all of this himself tells you he's got a plan.  Better to do it now than when his mental health has deteriorated more and he is imobilized with anxiety/depression and cannot make those decisions.

This is what parents do not realize with the elite universities---these kids have spend MS onward prepping under pressure to get into the elite school, then when they get there the competition is still fierce.  Because the top 5% at your HS (or less) is who are surrounding you in classes.  Everyone is elite and driven.  Your kid will struggle for the first time in their life (if they haven't previously).  It doesn't have to be this way.  You can find a great school with strong engineering program that would be a "bit easier" for a student who managed to get into CMU initially.  then your son can focus on actually learning and getting joy from what he's studying.  Not every school is a pressure cooker, yet amazingly kids from Non-pressure cooker schools still graduate, get great jobs and go on to lead successful lives. 
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