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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Different people do different things in different ways. [b]Some people are introverts.[/b]  Some people have lived in communities where speaking to people that you don’t know — or don’t want to know — is strongly discouraged, and “minding your own business “ is the expectation. Perhaps she finds your insistent behavior 
as “bizarre” as you find hers.  Why are you so determined to be intrusive?  It’s also quite possible that there are specific reasons why this woman is reluctant to interact with you. It’s impossible to tell on an anonymous forum whether this says more about her, more about you, or more about the two of you.
tldr: Please leave this woman alone since she clearly is not interested in your fervent “friendliness. Or, better yet, stay out of her space, wave if you wish, but restrain your expectations — which she really doesn’t have to meet in order to live peacefully and comfortably in the community of your cul de sac.

I say this as someone who speaks to people,  but gets that not everybody does this — or wants to.

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I am introverted in fact I am extremely introverted but I Will always return a hello and always return a greeting. I don’t think being introverted is a good excuse for being rude.

I would like to hear from other introverted people About their behavior and experiences. I can’t pretend to speak for everybody.[/quote]

I’ll try this again.  I suggested several reasons why someone might not speak — and tried to also make the point that not speaking back to an insistent neighbor is not necessarily rude. If some of you want to assume that “speaking” is somehow a universal practice, that’s fine. Just know that this belief might not be shared.

YMMV, of course. The first neighbor who “spoke” back to me when I moved to a new neighborhood was also the one who followed me muttering “shvartze” —when I refused to comply with her other insistent expectations. I’m more concerned about people like the OP — who can’t simply content herself with a cheerful wave, than I am about the neighbors who just want to live their lives unbadgered.

Again: Different people do different things and have different expectations— and that really is ok.

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Characterizing a person who says hello to you or waves at you, which is what the OP described, as "insistent" is bizarre.  The OP described a person who can't even be bothered to wave back.

You one time having an obnoxious neighbor does not make this thought process at all normal.  [/quote]

That’s fine. But repeatedly talking to someone you don’t really know, and repeatedly ignoring all of the indications that this person does not want to interact with you in this way is not at all normal or healthy either.   Different people are different and that’s ok.
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