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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is a partner at a smaller law firm but was an associate at a BigLaw firm and has had offers to come back. He will not at least while our kids are home because he saw enough as an associate to know it’s not for him (and I’d probably divorce him!). Based on what we have seen people who are able to have those big jobs and spend significant time with their kids do so by sleeping 4-5 hours a night. Otherwise there just aren’t enough hours in the day (although ability to WAH does help). My DH can’t do that long term and was miserable trying.

Even though he’s at a smaller firm now, I do the vast majority of the making things work for our house. I work a bit more than half time so it’s manageable even with one of our kids having some weekly appointments. Now that travel is coming back, I think any parent with long hours and low flexibility in their work needs essentially full time back up help. When the man has the big job, usually the wife provides that (either directly or through some combination of hiring child care if they work). If the wife works a lot or has a tough schedule, she usually gets full time back up either from live in grandparents or livin nanny. Not saying that’s hit should be, just that has my experience. [/quote]

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