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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I would be peeved. Everyone is going to claim that you're being picky, creating work for yourself, trying to make him do things "your way." But what they don't see is the broader perspective. Having your child wear clothes that fit to a formal event IS important. It's part of the overall network of social behavior, fitting in, showing that you care to other people, showing respect.  This ONE incident probably doesn't matter -- he probably looked cute in the giant tux -- but it's part of a series of small things that do matter.

Left to his own devices, would your DH even have obtained a tux? Or would he have just sent the kid down the aisle in a t-shirt and jeans saying "it's just a wedding, who cares?" Or decline to let him be in the wedding party?
 
Your DH's failure to participate in the overall plan (and yes it matters that it is HIS family) belies the all-too-common attitude that all of this type of labor A) belongs to women and B) therefore is not important at all and women need to stop being naggy nags about it.

I don't have much advice to you about this except to suggest that you raise your conscience and understand that this is part of a broader pattern of how women get screwed when they have kids.

The best thing you can do is affirmatively fight for your own time and resources within the family.  Make sure you are getting plenty of time for leisure and your own personal goals.  Put yourself first. Your DH certainly does! 
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This is the best response in the thread. A lot of sexism is showing. [/quote]

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