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[quote=Anonymous]I think you are going to have to brace yourself for some intense pressure from your MIL for your husband and brother to “build” a “relationship”. She doesn’t just want to see her kids together she wants your husband to agree to be his future caregiver. Her expectation that you start paying for BIL to make several trips out with her and expectation that you can afford this is about setting up BIL’s future.

Your husband has zero relationship with him now so why would he divert money for your own retirement, kids college and your family life to support his sibling. However, if he’s already paying for his sibling to visit him several times a year there’s a good wedge in her mind to get your husband to do more. It’s a good idea to keep your distance from BIL and be prepared for some intense manipulation, anger, guilt trips, tears and badgering.

It’s a wildly inappropriate and harmful expectation to have of you and your husband, but from her perspective he’s her child and what will he do? [/quote]

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