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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP let me give you unconventional advice. This is how men do this (my ex did this to me) when they are a-oles.  First of all you should not stay with him if he's draining your finances and psychologically unbearable. The more your stay, the higher share in all assets, your marital portion of pension accumulates. If you divorce him in 15 years, you are on hook for a lifetime alimony (I know for a fact the case when not working exH receives $6K/month from a MD exW, they divorced in late 50s). 
If your DH is in his 40s the alimony will be small and temporary.

Second: make it appear to him like you are going to court for everything: don't agree to child support, to alimony to anything voluntarily. Is your employment easy to replace? Can you switch to a part-time position or leave job temporarily to take care of your 18 months old? It might be wise in terms of child support and alimony to reduce your income: you have a minor child and it will be well received by the judge if you show husband is not helping at whole WHILE also not working. You would have to pay a minimal child support.

If the CS is small, even if you do have 50/50 custody, the expenses on all children would be too high for your exH to want them 50% of his time. He will slowly become a "weekend dad" or remarry. The new woman also wouldn't want to bank your kids.

As a result, you will be free, will have your kids most of the time and pay little to him. [/quote]

Oh, I forgot to mention you don't agree to any "settlements" for a long time, like a year or more. Drain him psychologically, transfer all accounts to your name and give him an "allowance" - this is legal as long as you pay his minimal bills. He should feel that custody, CS and alimony will be an uphill court only battle for him that cost hundreds of thousands. He will eventually give in since he has no savings to pay lawyers [/quote]

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