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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d say “Mom, I just don’t get along with them and I know the feeling is mutual and I’ve never really considered them to be part of my family. I’d like to spend more time with you and SF.” She won’t like it but she either has to accept it or lose out on seeing you and her grandchild. [/quote]

See, that's the kind of thing that gets ACODs shamed and belittled and accused of being too emotional, sad, hung up on the divorce, etc.  If you haven't experienced it you really wouldn't understand, but divorced people are very defensive of their choices and cling very, very hard to their imaginary happy family and react with anger when challenged.  There are really no words polite or tactful enough to get this message across without negative consequences.  And many ACOD aren't willing to deny their child time with grandparents.  It's bad enough that the grandchild is already getting less time due to the divorce.[/quote]

I disagree. I’m an ACOD and my step siblings, who I didn’t meet until I was in my mid-20’s, are losers and my mother knows it but does her best to deal with it. I like her husband and we get together a few times a year but never with the other siblings. If there is any resentment on the part of my mother or her husband they never show it and they are very loving grandparents. [/quote]

It’s not that you disagree, it’s that you’ve had a very different experience, luckily. Your mom decided to bear the burnt of the loser stepsiblings - shielding you from a consequence of her choice - and didn’t expect that you to play Big Happy Family. You should know perfectly well that’s not what happens 95 percent of the time. [/quote]

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