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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi everyone it’s op. I’m not a troll. I’m also not a helicopter mom, that is true. But I don’t let my four year old roam the neighborhood. I was inside when this happened and my kids were playing outside with a bunch of other kids in our fenced backyard. According to my son and our outdoor cameras the boy came and got him and took him over to his house. It took literally the time it takes for pasta water to boil because that’s what I’m inside doing when it happened. The other children did not notice he was gone and neither did I until the dad brought him back. Do none of you let your kids play in your backyard without watching them every second? I thought it was ok but now I see I’ll have to be more vigilant even in this scenario. .

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The issue here is that your 4yr old is not ready to be left alone in the backyard.  He has demonstrated that he is willing to leave the yard with someone else.  While I get that the 6yr old touching your son is inappropriate, think of what else could have happened.  What if a stranger has come to the fence and asked your 4yr old to come with him?  You were inside boiling water and the other kids didn’t see him leave.  Now where is your son?[/quote]

OP, does your son know that there is a rule that he may not leave the yard without your permission and he may not go into another home without permission? A four year old might definitely go with another kid even if there is a rule, so that's not a fail-safe, but if you haven't established those strict boundaries about what he is allowed/not allowed to do-now is the time. If I felt another child was a danger to mine, I would tell the child and the parents that they are not allowed in my yard and home and be really consistent about sending the kid away if he shows up. It doesn't feel good to exclude a kid but maybe it will be the thing that makes the parents get serious about addressing his behavior.[/quote]

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