Reply to Would you gray divorce a “roommate” spouse if…

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Would you gray divorce a “roommate” spouse if…"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
Don't all marriages end up like this?

I am staying because:
1. Money. Separate homes are more expensive. Kids need college tuition. Retirement is less expensive as a couple. 
2. Social life. Our circle is all married, with all more or less similar marriages. There is a lot of stability there, all the kids are happy and balanced. Divorce would be disruptive to our community of friends and families.
3. I don't really want to live by myself, and finding another partner and learning to live with a new person just sounds like a giant hassle!

[/quote]

I divorced at 42 after a 10-year marriage. Money would have been the only reason to stay. I have been way more successful since divorcing...the man always held me back.

No. 2 and No. 3 were not relevant in my situation. We had no shared life at all...and I love living alone. I was never ever comfortable living with him.
Also, we were sexless for 7 years.

You seem like the type that should not divorce. I definitely made the right decision.[/quote]

Do you have children with him?  If so, how much did that factor into your decision?  [/quote]

I have to clarify what I said. Kids were a factor in staying the marriage as long as I did. If there were no kids, it would have ended within 18 months. A kid surprise kept me there. But when I finally decided to divorce, kids were no longer a factor. I did not see how staying longer only to divorce later for certain would benefit them. There was no sex between the conception of kids and none after. Both were shocking surprises. People do not usually get pregnant from one time unprotected (we fought about birth control). I do. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics