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Glad I have friends. My kids would be screwed if I had to rely on family.
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OP, I think that the willingness and ability to keep the child connected to both sides of her family, while parenting in a way that's acceptable to you, trumps all.  I might look for a third party, if I were you.

The quoted above is us, too.  Though I don't have the Jewish cultural and religious overlay to consider (we're Episcopalian), my DD is biracial, and I decided that neither her (deceased) father's family or mine could fully do right by her if I were to die.  So, her guardians are people who are my dear friends, but not related by blood.  I know that they'll cultivate her AA/French bi-racial identity, develop her character and intellect just as I would have done, irrespective of their race and the faith that she learns while in their care.  More importantly, I know that they would welcome and involve both sides of her birth family in her life.  Can't say that about my (AA) family or her father's (caucasian agnostic/Catholic French) family.  My daughter's guardians are a white, Quaker/agnostic couple, who I know will uphold my desire for DD to be fully fluent in French (so she can communicate with the in-laws), to be fully aware of her African-American heritage, and who will parent her to be a kind, thoughtful human being, with reference to her race and religion, but the without limitations prescribed by the same.

It's not perfect, but what guadianship plan is?  Both parents dead? That's a dictionary definition of "stuff that sucks and screws with my head, fodder for therapy."   There's nothing that I, as her parent, can do to change that, I can only mitigate by appointing guardians who will love her like I do and who share my values across the board, even if they practice a different religion and are of a different race.

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