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[quote=Anonymous]so I think I see where the contradiction and self delusion is in the posts. Both the OP and the later other DW defending her keep stressing how their DHs are "good guys" "great on paper", nothing is wrong. The implication is that the DHs treat them really well but they just aren't a good fit. Yet both refer repeatedly to wrongs their DHs have committed. So her DH "stopped trying" and the other one was a "boring jerk". Withholding sex, etc.

Everyone keeps flagging this and I'll give my reasons why I think it weakens the OP's position. It makes you seem like you are twisting the story to best give the conclusion you want from people. You want permission to leave so you are pretending that your DH is a great husband (despite your barely concealed anger and long lists of grudges) so that there is no responsibility on you to address those issues in counseling. You are pretending that your feelings are totally out of your control and you just "dislike" him when in reality you are clearly full of anger at your DH - so just own it!

It also makes you seem like a terribly passive aggressive communicator and I would bet all the money in the world that the supposed clear declarations you have made to DH were nothing of the sort.

You know that if you posted a thread saying "my DH doesn't really put much effort into our relationship and I resent him", people would say counseling. If you want to divorce, then be a big girl and own your decisions. But stop lying to yourself. You might be able to save your marriage. You just don't want to.
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